At the beginning of 2020, just before the world went topsy-turvy with Covid, my mom died. She had ovarian cancer. It was mid-January when I went to visit her, thinking I could help line up some extra support before she started another round of chemo. I ended up staying through the end of February instead, choosing to be with her as she chose hospice.
Needless to say, it was a grief-filled, shitty, shitty few months. But one thing lifted my heart time and again: the beautifully touching letters her friends wrote her. I cry just thinking about them, not just because of what they said, but because of how my mom would hang on to those letters like the most precious gifts.
And they were.
After I came home, I vowed to write more letters to people. We don’t do that so much these days. Now it’s a text with a weird emoji. I know for me, it’s usually once a year that I see a card in my mailbox—my birthday—and I have to say, it does make me feel special.
I’ll come clean: I’ve failed at my card-sending declaration. Even though I know it makes me giddy to send them—and my friends are thrilled to get a random card—I haven’t made it a habit. Sure, I’ve sent a few, but it hasn’t been the random acts of kindness I meant it to be.
Until now.
I’m back on the wagon. Making sweet little postcards to send. Yes, making them. Because that’s part of the fun—both in the sending and the receiving.
How special do we feel when we get a little handmade something from a friend? Really special.
And here’s the best part: it’s not hard. It’s not time-consuming. In fact, it’s truly fun to create these.
So, card-making is June’s Crone’s Table project.
We’ll gather via Zoom on Thursday, June 26 (11:00 am Eastern) and make some cards. I even have an envelope template for you to use!
We’ll bring our paints, pens, collage bits… whatever you fancy, and make a few cards. I think it’ll be fun too if anyone wants to swap addresses for a little pen-pal action.
The Crone’s Table is a live monthly offering that’s part of the paid subscription level. You can join us live (via Zoom) or catch the recording later if you can’t be there. These gatherings dish up a chance to slow down for a moment, carve out creative time with other women, and chat about our lives.
I hope you’ll join us. I’ll send out the link to paid subscribers on Thursday morning, or you can grab that here.
I am a sender of cards. They are, in my opinion, far more personal than a text or email. Plus there is no digital “record” floating out there - I have literally sent cards to friends in response to a digital message letting them know that the card can be burned so I can speak freely in it.
I have a good friend who lives far far away. We met casually. A year later when I suffered a Traumatic Brain Injury and “came to” I found she had sent me a weekly card (international mail!) for several weeks. We exchange cards as well as digital messages and our friendship has deepened.
I do not make the cards I send but find them in art galleries, museums and coffee shops. Not Hallmark. ❤️
i love this. and, as the receiver of one of your cards, i can truly say what a gift it is to receive them. yours stayed on my dining room table all winter long.